It’s halloween folks and I decided to write about something a little spooky and mystical, just for fun.
I studied Tarot for years. At first it was fun and mysterious, it was pretty neat to impress my friends with all of my incredible insights, and as it turned out I was pretty good at it too. What I came to find out about the tarot, after further study, is that the cards represent typical life situations and solutions, they help to tap into our own intuition and inner magic. The tarot is, kind of, like that best friend who is also a counsellor. Full of insight once you know how to decipher it. My actual best-friend who is a counsellor, the irony is not escaping me here, reminded me of the importance the tarot once held in my life while I was living in her home after my break up.
So on halloween, I feel it is appropriate to talk about one of my favourite and one of the most feared cards in the tarot deck. The Tower. Those who have spend any time studying the Tarot have inevitably had this situation occur. You are happy, life is gong incredibly well and you are playing around with your tarot deck. You are pulling cards and they all seem nice, until you pul the Tower, you groan, fight the urge to bundle your cards up and draw again, you even get a little panicked. Those who have not studied tarot would say something like “How can a little card strike up such an intense reaction in someone?” well let me explain.
You have to remember, the tarot is a reflecting on life situations. The Tower card is a breaking down of the stability in a person’s life, crushing the illusion of safety, security and happiness. Just when life seems to be going incredibly well and a person is just be able to enjoy it, they are basking in the glow of security and stability something comes a long and crushes it right to the ground. That something will come in the form of an event or situation that will change a life forever. If you ask people, what is the thing you fear most? It will more often than not, be change and the unknown. The Tower represents this so beautifully.
This card depicts a tower that is incredibly strong, seemingly able to weather any storm. Yet, along comes a few dark clouds and a lightning bolt and Bam!! The tower is cracked in half, people are falling out of it’s windows and no one is safe. It’s all very ominous. To me the tower represents the amazing and awesome power of change. Sure, when the change is occurring it can feel like your life is crumbling around your feet. Once the change has been embraced a new tower can be built. One that is stronger and more resilient. One that truly can wether the storm. Change is an amazing thing and sometimes we need the Tower to force that change however scary and difficult it appears. I absolutely love the restorative power this card creates, there is no choice after your tower has fallen but to pick up the pieces and rebuilt something new. It’s cleansing. The important thing to remember when faced with the Tower in your own life, is that you have absolutely everything you need inside of you to rebuild and make it great. To help here is my method for managing change;
You have to constantly be ready for the inevitable changes that will pop up on a daily basis. This is how I do that;
1. Take care of yourself and stay healthy. If you are well rested, nourished and fit you will have less anxiety when a change challenge pops up and you will be ready for action.
2. Have an open mind, managing change will naturally become a part of your daily life when you are not clinging to how an outcome will occur. When you let go of the journey and focus on results managing change is a breeze and you will gain so much experience.
3. Develop confidence, you’ve got everything you need to get through the toughest situation inside of you.
When people think of change they will always think about the actionable steps and how overwhelming they can be. Don’t fret! You have so much strength and you will overcome! This is what it looks like for me;
1. Recognize that change is occurring and acknowledge what that change is. What are your beliefs and perceptions around that change? How you perceive that change will effect your life, will determine how easily you will work through it. By acknowledging where you will struggle you can actively place extra focus on those areas.
2. Fixate on the pros but plan for the cons. Become absolutely obsessed with the benefits that the pros will bring to the situation. You want to be the person who others are becoming annoyed with because your positivity is overshadowing their anxiety around the change that is occurring. Plan for the cons, make back ups plans to your plans if it is helpful.
3. Research and develop a plan of action. If you are a visual person mind map it, if you do better with checklists then write it down. Once you have a well designed plan, work it but let it go. Most plans will fall apart at some point, but the structure you’ve laid out will allow you to modify it according to how the situation plays out. The key is to have an end result in mind and work toward it.
We use debriefing when we have to handle a challenging situation at work, I find that it can be applies to any challenging situation in my personal life as well. Here’s how I do it;
1. Pin point how this change will effect your life moving forward, what areas of your life do you need to place some extra focus on.
2. Look at how the process went and what you can do differently next time. If you find something particularly difficult you can research ways to improve in that area.
3. Celebrate your successful transition!
Ghouls and Gals, if you think you are in the middle of your own personal Tower crisis, smile and thank your lucky stars because only great things can come from clearing out all that rubble and starting new. You are at a transition point that will make you stronger and more capable. So go kick some tower butt!
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